A couple of days ago, I got this great reader question:
I am planning a Sept. wedding. Due to the current economy we are doing simple. My fiancee doesn't want to do the tux thing and I am supportive. My two bridesmaids are wearing black dresses (every women needs a little black dress). I am trying to figure out the best thing for the men to wear. I had thought of doing the bridesmaids in black dresses carrying white flowers (daisy) and the men wearing black pants and white shirts, but he is concerned about the white shirts. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks for writing in, Kim, and I applaud your decision to have a simple (but lovely) wedding.
I am going on the assumption that your 'maids already have their dresses and the 'mens have their own blacks slacks (I would recommend that you double check the pants for pleats and nix them if they do!). So, we are basically looking to plan a wedding color scheme around the color black and something autumn-y.
First off, the groomsmen. I agree with your fiancee's concern regarding the white shirts and black pants…could have them being mistaken for waitstaff! I think your concept of using basic neutral colors is good – with a bit of a boost. I have created three options for you (covering the 'mens, the 'maids, and some flowers) and I hope one of them works for your vision:
Option #1: Black and Grey
If you thinking of a more contemporary and monochromatic wedding scheme then pair the groomsmen's black (flat front!) slacks with this striped dress shirt (no tie and the top button undone). Have the groom wear this same shirt but finish his off with a simple
dark grey blazerto help him really stand out.
Target Merona Ombre Floral Textured Wrap in Black – $12.99
Photo Courtesy of: Target
Pair your bridesmaid's little black dresses with this black on grey floral wrap. Have them use it as a wrap, or a scarf (tied
European style around the neck), or (if they have enough hair) wrapped around an updo.
Anemones are great cool season flower (perfect for your September wedding) and just a dozen can make a powerful visual impact for your bridesmaids (slip in some inexpensive stems of white mini carnations for a a fuller look).
Alright. For the groomsmen's boutonnieres, use the above images as inspriation. Make the leaves from some old grey and black hoodstooth or tweed scraps and pair with simple herbs or just one sprig of baby's breath.
To save money on these modern yet textural centerpieces, nix the orchids. if you live in a relatively rural area (or have a backyard!) gather up some pebbles and bare branches, combine in tall cylindrical vases, and maybe top off with a couple of feathers and/or a single white tulip.
Finish off this wedding's look with some simple black or dark grey on white invites and individual black and white cookies as favors.
Option #2: Brown and Black
Target Mossimo Preppy Woven Shirt in Brown – $21.99
Photo Courtesy of: Target
A nice casual, preppy look for a more casual wedding. Have the groomsmen wear this exactly as the picture shows (but with black slacks or khakis…flat front!). Have your wear the same pants as his groomsmen but with
Love this simple headband for your bridesmaids – it would look great in an updo or helping sweep back a loose 'do. Pair this headwear with a wide sash of tan solid colored fabric to tie around the waist of the dress.
Use the above image as inspiration for your 'maids bouquets. This knot of flowers looks best with several different kinds of greenery and flowers but keep them all in the same basic neutral color family. I would recommend using mini daisies, small pompoms in white, tightly grouped bunches of baby's breath, some small cocoa or ivory roses, and maybe even some berries or mint. Also consider using small twigs, wild grasses, and some of the leaves below to fill out the bouquet.
Very nice but tasteful boutonnieres that feature herbs. Simply wire or tape a couple of sprigs of mint or rosemary and finish it off with some brown ribbon – voila!
These gorgeous centerpieces are a breeze to make (just double-sided tape and some ribbon). Look for flowers in creams and cocoas (roses can be bought at the supermarket on the cheap and tightly bunched carnations would also look lovely) and use any old cans or vases for the foundation.
Finish off this wedding's look with chocolate brown on taupe invites and mini gingersnap cookies packaged in clear cellophane bags (topped off with dark brown ribbon and small tags stamped with your monogram).
Option #3: Yellow and Black
Still want your groomsmen to wear black slacks and white dress shirts? Not a problem. Those neutral tones work really well with the yummy brown in this suede jacket. Take it one step farther and pair this combo with
this tiefor a great cohesive look for every man in the wedding party.
evagodeva's Headband in Yellow with White Polka Dots – $13.00
Photo Courtesy of: etsy
So, so cute! Let your 'maids wear these as headbands on the wedding day and as headscarves in the days after.
Here's a great idea for beefing up a simple bouquet of standard daisies – add a couple of yellow Gerber daisies and a handful of pompoms. Finish off with a soft brown colored ribbon.
This is a great idea for a simple boutonniere. Just use a single large pompom type bud and finish it off with a chocolate brown ribbon.
Continuing with your daisy theme, grace your reception area with these bags 'o daisies. Just fill any old container with water, insert a handful of these mini daisies (mix in larger ones if you wish), place each container in a white lunch bag, and tie off the top with a yellow ribbon.
Finish off this wedding with invites in black text over a yellow stamped daisy image on white and fill some tiny white bags with lemon drop candies (stamp with a yellow daisy image).
Thanks again for writing in, Kim!