One of the oldest wedding jokes is how traditionally awful the bridesmaid's dresses are. Sitcoms have based entire episodes around it (remember Rachel's awful Bo-Beep get-up for ex-Barry's wedding to Mindy?) and Glamour has even had a contest about it for their Do's and Don'ts page.
Here's the deal, Brides.
1. Take into account your wedding party's coloring, sizes, and shapes. Is one girl a blonde Glamzon and another an Italian curvy queen? The same exact dress will not (no, trust me, it will not) work on both ladies.
2. Think about the season and where your ceremony and reception will be taking place. A cotton minidress may look cute for your ultramod wedding but not so much if it's held at an open air venue in November and your 'maids are a-shiverin'.
3. Be honest about how much your wedding party can spend on a dress. Yes, you may have found the perfect option (great color, beautiful fabric, looks good on everyone) at Vera Wang but, honestly, very few people can afford the fee (or want to).
4. Don't fool yourself. The dress will never get worn again. Really.
So, how does a bride deal with the above in the classiest way and still achieve the look she's hoping for?
1. Pick a choice of colors and cuts. Stick to 3 of each and work with the group to make sure you get a pleasing finished look. Every party has that one girl who looks great in anything so I'd concentrate on clothing the "harder" bodies (i.e. pregnant, very tall, curvy, etc) first. Just a note, pencil or A-line skirts look great on everyone, as do wrap dresses and tailored shirtdresses.
2. It's important to match your attire to the season and it will make budget dress hunting easier for you and your 'maids. Still dying for a minidress in November? Pick one in a heavy material (wool blend, sweater-y, etc) and pair it with knee-height boots and tights. And possibly a shawl or wrap.
3. Budget. Just because you've alloted $100 per bridesmaid outfit for your ladies does not mean that they can swing those funds. Have an honest conversation with each lady individually about how much you were thinking of as an outfit budget and what types of clothing you are considering. Someone might have a part of the outfit (i.e. knee-high boots, a cashmere wrap, etc.) already in their closet. Someone else might be able to do a little browsing and find budget options below your original estimate. But sometimes, someone simply cannot afford to be in your wedding. And that's okay.
4. Seriously, it will never be worn again. Stop dreamin'.
And in this age of long distance wedding parties (with everyone scattered across the globe), I decided to browse around the Internet and find pretty ensembles from one online source (in the case, Oasis Clothing) for potential bridesmaid outfits. Here's what I came up with (every item is less than $50.00):
Ya know what I really love about these outfits? They can also be considered for the honeymoon, the rehearsal dinner, or the bridal shower! So, Tulle Nation – whattya think? Would you consider any of the items above for your wedding? Have any of you purchased from Oasis Clothing before? What was you experience? Share away!