The wedding registry. If there any other three more controversial words in the English language – I don’t even know. Well, possibly “no kids policy”, “cash bar only”, or “take the centerpieces” – but, for this post. It’s all about the wedding registry… specifically, the Big Ticket Items.
First, wedding registry Big Ticket Items can mean many things to many people. For some, it’s anything over $100 and for others – anything under $500 is the small stuff. Basically, there is no “right” answer on this one. You need to understand your lives and the lives (and budgets) of your guests to best determine where to draw your Big Ticket Item Line. For the Boy and I, it was the $200 mark – we’re older and our friends and family have more money (and want to buy us nicer items for our wedding) and we also have groups who want to go in together and get us cool stuff). We also had over a year from the time we got engaged to our wedding day (the original wedding day – not the one we actually ended up with) so we knew that there would be lots of parties and showers (and Christmas and birthdays) for people to gift us.
Second, and I cannot stress this enough – YOU ARE NOT GREEDY FOR ASKING PEOPLE TO MAYBE BUY YOU SOMETHING WHEN THEY FREAKING WANT TO BUY YOU SOMETHING. Ahem. I’m mean, don’t cram your registry with only $500 items but don’t be afraid to add one or two things in that price range – who are you to decide the maximum amount of money that someone is allowed to spend on you?
Third, some items are just worth it. That $200 stand mixer – worth spending money on (the $50 ones – are. not. good.), the $1000 couch – worth it, and those $50 knives – worth it. These are things that get used multiple times every day and you definitely want quality – it makes a difference. Those vases? Not worth it.
Fourth, Big Ticket Items are better for the environment. Really. They generally use less energy (or require you using less energy) and/or are less disposable (as they wear out slower). You + those high thread count sheets = Mama Earth Hugging.
Still need convincing? Check out these thoughts (and Big Ticket Item recommendations) from real brides and wedding planners:
On The Go Bride wrote: “One thing from our registry that was more on the expensive side and totally worth it to me was our towels. I know it sounds funny, but those things are amazing!”
Danielle wrote: “I'm not engaged (and therefore not registered) but things like a juicer and vacuum [would be excellent].”
Annie wrote: “People forget that groups of people like to buy things together (KitchenAid stand mixer, Calphalon pots and pans). And others are the type to buy that expensive set of knives (like the Wusthoff ones we registered for), because they are foodies and like to buy that kind of thing. No one's bought the Dyson vacuum we registered for though.”
Ariella wrote: “I definitely think that there are expensive things that are totally worth it. I LOVE my Kitchen Aid stand mixer. I didn't register for a good set of pots and pans, but those should definitely be on the list. We did register for a nice down comforter. I highly recommend one, but be prepared to never want to get out of bed in the winter.”
Céire wrote: “I don't know anyone who had a full list that didn't register for ‘big-ticket’ items. Stand mixer, food processor, vacuum, knives, cookware, Panini press, etc.”
Liz wrote: “[Register for] good sheets and the Cuisinart Griddler. I LOVE that thing more than I ever anticipated. Seriously, I have had this same conversation with my mother 15 times. People today already have apartments and homes and whatnot before getting married, so when the wedding registry comes around, they're looking to upgrade the crappy warped pans they've had since their dorm room days. And there's a lot of smaller stuff they just don't need because they are probably combining two households. One can only use so many whisks. Put what you really want on there to help you build your home – within reason…for example, I still maintain it's tacky to register for a 47” TV and three game systems – and if someone is shocked and appalled by the cost, they don't have to buy it for you. If nothing else, you can get it with that completion discount.
I've tried to keep 1/3 of the items under $50, 1/3 in between $50-$100, and 1/3 over $100, figuring we'll use any cash we get [as wedding gifts] on those bigger ticket items. When you're spending thousands of your own dollars to entertain and feed and booze up people, you are completely justified in putting that stand mixer you want on the registry. Oh yeah, and the boy was judging me re: the price of lamps on our registry, until he started looking on the interwebs for alternatives. Now, he's convinced the real money is in the lamp-making business.”
So how about you, Tulle Nation? Did you register for an Big Ticket Items? Were they worth it? What was your Big ticket Item monetary cutoff? Share away!