Well, I have TONS of news for Tulle Nation. The Boy and I are getting married this Friday. Yep. THIS FRIDAY!
AAAAAAHHHHHH!!!!
The above is happiness, fear, and a whole crapload of nerves. Because y’all know that The Boy and I have been engaged since January and planning a May 2012 wedding. We’ve chosen vendors, put down deposits, and the save-the-dates have already been printed. Why the change, Cris?
That Willie Nelson lookin' mother in the center is my Daddy (surrounded by granddaughters)
Well, my dad got sick. Like, very serious, aggressive, has only a few weeks to live cancer sick. Talk about your game-changer. I got the news on a Friday, The Boy and I flew into Alaska (my home state) on Thursday, and by Monday – we’d decided to have a civil ceremony that following Friday. When there’s a good chance that your daddy is going to die before your official gorgeous dress wearing/artfully crafted DIY projects/carefully chosen farm-fresh menu wedding in May? A quickie civil ceremony in a sundress and a potluck reception sounds pretty damn good.
So, here’s how it all went down. My dad was supposed to start chemo on Saturday (after the doctors found a slight opportunity to operate and give him the chance to live past 30 days); however, over the weekend his doctors saw something they didn’t like. They thought they saw more cancer (which would be fatal). I got this news while walking through Wal-Mart after getting a fishing license. I immediately turned to The Boy and said “So, should we get married on Friday or Sunday?” He voted for Friday. And that’s how we decided to do a for funsies wedding.
My Mom and Dad (pre-cancer)
We had kind of prepared for this, I had stuck a pretty sundress and cute shoes in my carry-on and The Boy had packed a dress shirt and nice loafers. I remembered to bring my wedding band and we warned our friends and relatives that it might happen. But, honestly – I don’t think that we really thought that we’d be getting married. We kind of hoped that a miracle would happen and it would all be moot. On a whim though, once we got to Alaska we swung into the Bureau of Vital Statistics and applied for a marriage license. Our theory was, they’re good for three months and so we figured – why not? We’ll be prepared! Good thing we did because a few hours later, we got the bad news and were able to plan a ceremony around the three day waiting period and the date that we’ll be heading back to Texas (leaving us exactly two days to choose from).
The Boy and my Alaska wedding (as imagined by my niece, Cortney)
So, here’s the deal. This is a simple civil ceremony. This is a SUPER laidback affair. Some of my family members won’t even be able to be there. Some will. There’s no time for cute themes or fancy DIY touches. But, my dream of having my daddy marry me to my best friend (and one of his favorite people) is going to come true and that, my friends, is all that matters.
Dad with his very first great-grandbaby
Phew. I shared so much detail and so many emotions in this post – hope you’re still with me. I hope that Tulle Nation will be thinking of my lovely dad this Friday (good thoughts, y’all!) and wishing me and The Boy well. I promise, over the next couple of Wedding Wednesdays, I’ll share all the fun little details, photos, and my thoughts and experience on this whole shindig. Much love, y'all!
kristina says
Thinking of you and your family. I think what you are doing for your dad is beautiful. Thank you for sharing! Thoughts and prayers are with you
Janna (Sparkly Love) says
You’ll be amazing on Friday and we’ll all be thinking of you! Have the best time with your dad and your new husband! Can’t wait to hear all about it. Love you!
KissMyTulle says
Thank you! We got his ring custom made today (just WAIT until you hear that story!) and we’re feeling a little more secure about this whole thing.
Jessica says
Definitely touched by your story and thanks for keeping us posted along the way.
Jenna @ Heartcarry Press says
Will be thinking of you guys on Friday- I know the day will be beautiful. Can’t wait to hear all about it!
Elizabeth {Bridal Musings} says
Hope you have a wonderful wedding day full of love and laughter and no talk of the c word ~ sending best wishes to you and your family. Can’t begin to imagine what you’re going through. Love your family photos and your niece’s drawing!
BRANDI says
What a wonderful gift! You all are in our thoughts and prayers. See you when you get home. Love you both.
KissMyTulle says
Thanks to everyone for the sweet, sweet words and kind thoughts. We’ll keep everyone posted on Facebook and Twitter!
Glowing Bride (Laura) says
Wow, I’m stunned Cris! You are so so sweet though and I know your Dad is proud of you. I am moved by your story and thankful you shared.
Can’t wait to hear all about it! xo
KissMyTulle says
Aw! Thanks! This is a wild little journey but basically, in the end, it is for the best.
Takara says
Whoa!!!!!!!! OMG, bless your hearts! I’m excited about the wedding and of course your family is in my prayers.
Melissa says
While I’m sad about the circumstances, it is really exciting!!
Craftyminx says
Whirlwind weddings are very romantic. I’m sorry about the situation, but it’s great that your dad is still going to do the ceremony. What memories that will make! I’m praying for all of you!!
KissMyTulle says
Thank you all! I’m sure that we’ll be excited once everything is happening. Right now, it is a combination of anxiety for my dad and rushing to get stuff done!
Deb says
There is no more kinder or beautiful gift you could have ever given your father. Thank you for sharing with us all. Sending good thoughts to you, The Boy, your dad and family for a fabulous and most-memorable day! Congratulations!
Elizabeth says
I’ll be thinking about you two, your dad, and your whole family tomorrow. Your wedding is going to be amazing, as is your marriage. The most important part about a wedding day is that you are marrying the person you love, surrounded by the people you love, so this is perfect. Best wishes, Liz
KissMyTulle says
My heart? It has grown two sizes this week! Thank you everyone!!!
Alicia@Charitywedding says
You are so right and I LOVE what you are doing. When all is said and done the details won’t matter anyway. Happy Wedding Day to You!!!
KissMyTulle says
Thank you!
Melissa Dunstan Photography says
Congratulations! I’ll be thinking of you today and wishing for everything perfect!
Layla Mayville says
May your day be filled with much happiness!!
Kate Eileen Emmert says
Best Wishes for a beautiful and incredibly special wedding day! I’ll be thinking about you and your family today!
Brenda's Wedding Blog says
Thinking of you today and sending all my best to you, your father and family. Hope you have a blessed day marrying the one you love with your father by your side.
Adrienne O'Connor says
So incredibly touching – wishing you all the best for a day of bliss and lifetime of happiness!
Candice Pereira says
Awww thats so touching! Congratulations!!! Have a lovely day..xx
Elsie J says
Wishing you the best on your happy day!
Natalie says
Sending you a huge hug! Thinking of you and praying for your family!
KissMyTulle says
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I’ll be sharing all the photos and details of the day through the next month-ish on the blog and Facebook.
jacin {lovely little details} says
this brought me to tears. i can’t even imagine. i admire your strong spirit and want you to know we are thinking of you and your family. if there’s anything i can do at all, please let me know!
Morgan - Sandytoesbride says
Best of luck! You and the family are in my thoughts. This will be such a special time for your family – enjoy every second.
The Perfect Palette says
whirlwind weddings truly are special and most of all… this is a decision you’ll never regret. I hope you had a lovely wedding. I’m sure you did. We’re all thinking of you!
xoxo, chrissy
The Perfect Palette
KissMyTulle says
You are all so delightful! Thank you for the well wishes. The civil ceremony was really special and I’m so glad that we made the decision to do it. Thank you for all the support!
Laura *You Stir Me* says
Congrats, lady! Thinking of you two and your lovely family and friends – the day sounds like it was just perfect and filled with so much love (exactly what matters most!)
Rhiannon {Hey Gorg} says
Hoping your wedding day goes absilutely PERFECT, Cris 🙂 xoxo
Stephanie @ Vintage Modern Bride says
just found your blog and i really loved your post. i wish you well this week in all your wedding stuff and am sending prayers your way for your dad and your family. 🙂
KissMyTulle says
You are all too sweet! The civil ceremony was great and I’m going to share lots of photos on Wednesday (and maybe a video of the actual ceremony). Stay tuned!
Stephanie Elizabeth {Fab You Bliss Weddings} says
Wishing you and the Boy and your family all the BEST! Congrats and I can’t wait to see pictures.
KissMyTulle says
Thank you!
Bonafidebride says
My prayers are with you and your AWESOME family! Way to be, girl. Way to be. xoxo
KissMyTulle says
Thank you – I know that you and your dude have gone through very similiar lately. I always thought of you and your family during your difficult times. Thanks for a little dose of the same!
Miriam Corona says
Your story is so touching. It’s easy to get caught up with wedding plans and details, but in the end you did what was right for your situation and that’s all that matters.